Formerly Thin, Now Fat

Some did recently comment that the article I re-printed about Mermaids or Whale insults thin women.

I need to tell you, I have been both — I was a very, very thin child, teen and young adult and became overweight in my mid-30s and obese by my 40s. Yes, when I was skinny “as a rail” or “anorexic” [even when I wasn’t officially anorexic — ages 18-21], or called “skeletal“. I have suffered much, much more discrimination, verbal bullying and stupid comments as a fat/obese person.

Thus, sorry, my skinny friends — when heavier people assume you don’t eat; yes, I know many of you eat (sometimes like a horse) — and you just don’t gain weight; you don’t like to hear it. Nevertheless, you don’t have to leave clothing stores because they “don’t go up that high” in size, you don’t lose jobs over your skinny frame; except maybe some of you models. I’ve never heard of a skinny person, with the qualifications, being turned down for a receptionist or administrative job due to lack of weight. Yet, I have heard of discrimination of fat people being turned down for those jobs — qualified or not — for not being “corporate enough”.

Yes, I was given that line of bullshit to say — “you’re too fat” and don’t look good to our financial analysts. I was fired from a long-term temp job because I didn’t “dress appropriately“. Upon deeper investigation, the boss told me that his former Administrative Assistant wore these stylish short skirts and tight tops. He didn’t like that I wore suits with long skirts and pants that covered my body parts.

Yes, he actually said that! It was an entertainment company and when I told me agency — as it was a temp to perm position — they told me, in show business (entertainment) — looks play a part. Yet, being overweight, no way would I wear short skirts nor tight clothing.

Thus, I’m sorry to my skinny sisters — yes, you can be teased, called some skinny names — but, unlike me, you can shop in most any clothing store, you don’t generally lose jobs over your weight and even media doesn’t attack you like it does us! Commercials about how they want to make it a crime to buy soda, or McDonald’s — I never eat at McDonald’s — and limit us in the overweight community from buying fattening foods. You’ll still be able to buy whatever you want, though; thoroughly based on your size.

I’m also so tired of people saying, “you just have big bones.” NO, I DO NOT!!! I have normal size — medium bones! You Ms. Skinny never get that one about big bones. I’d rather someone ask me if I’m anorexic then tell me I have big bones. I miss the days when I was called “skeleton” or “stretch“. I would take them back in an instant.

In fact, when I was skinny, I loved it when people noticed — even if the comment was rude! I loved Italian mother’s encouraging me to “eat more” because “you’re too skinny“.

I’d be forever appreciative to anyone, right now, who would get me a Personal Trainer and pay for NutraSystem for a year, too! Thus, I will not post comments saying that you, as a thin person, have it as rough as us who are overweight. I have been there — too thin or thin — and I never complained, in those days, when people teased me about my weight. I knew they were just envious of my wonderful shape.

As for Jennifer Hudson — Congrats! To her, too — she lost 80 lbs on Weight Watchers (which I love); unlike me, though, Jennifer has money. She can afford the right food, she can afford a Personal Trainer, she can afford to attend the meetings and buy things needed to lose weight.

As an obese person — it is just plain mean as no one is jealous of a fat person.

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5 thoughts on “Formerly Thin, Now Fat

  1. Absolutely loved your ‘rant’ ~ why? Because it is too true even in the world that does not call itself media. Approximately twenty years ago, I applied for a job as a receptionist {overqualified but a needed position}. The Personal Assistant {woman} wanted me hired because I far outstripped all the other candidates and one of the lawyers wanted me hired, the other did not because I was too fat {I really wasn’t, I wore a size 14}. I was hired, over the senior {in years} lawyer because the younger lawyer looked at me as did the PA, a useful, productive tool for their office.

    But in the time I was in that office, I did not have any interaction with the older lawyer. The only thing worse than being fat in this society is being old and fat.

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    1. I hear you, Paula . . . running into that “old” part now, too. Even if we are not that “old” — over 40 means “old” to many hiring people!

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  2. I was thin all my life till my mid 30’s where I too became obese. And I mean skinny! In 1993 I weighed in 98 pounds at age 28.

    Now at age 47 It is worse than ever. However, I have learned a few things. First is my thyroid has a cyst/tumor on it. When your thyroid hormone is low you get depressed, axiety attacks, hair falls out, acne, dry skin, heart palpatations, fatigue, moodiness and you gain weight. A lot of weight! And no matter what you do, exercise or diet you will not loose and continue to gain until the thyroid issue is fixed. Also, a second cause could by something called Cushings Disease. It is when there is too much natural steroid called cortisol in your blood. That is produced by the gland on top of your kidneys.

    I am working on getting my thryoid in order and the doc said the weight will start to come off rapidly once my hormone levels are normal.

    I hope this helps you and you can find out the cause of the weight gain. It took me from 1993 till 2010 to learn my cause. I would hate for anyone else have to go that long.

    People are so selfish and mean. Great rant! There are times I wish all those people who insult those of us who have put on weight, could just go one month being fat.

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    1. Yes, I have my thyroid checked — it is, apparently, normal.

      Yes, people need to know what it is like to be treated badly just because of who you are.

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