I need to tell you, I have been both — I was a very, very thin child, teen and young adult and became overweight in my mid-30s and obese by my 40s. Yes, when I was skinny “as a rail” or “anorexic” [even when I wasn’t officially anorexic — ages 18-21], or called “skeletal“. I have suffered much, much more discrimination, verbal bullying and stupid comments as a fat/obese person.
Thus, sorry, my skinny friends — when heavier people assume you don’t eat; yes, I know many of you eat (sometimes like a horse) — and you just don’t gain weight; you don’t like to hear it. Nevertheless, you don’t have to leave clothing stores because they “don’t go up that high” in size, you don’t lose jobs over your skinny frame; except maybe some of you models. I’ve never heard of a skinny person, with the qualifications, being turned down for a receptionist or administrative job due to lack of weight. Yet, I have heard of discrimination of fat people being turned down for those jobs — qualified or not — for not being “corporate enough”.
Yes, I was given that line of bullshit to say — “you’re too fat” and don’t look good to our financial analysts. I was fired from a long-term temp job because I didn’t “dress appropriately“. Upon deeper investigation, the boss told me that his former Administrative Assistant wore these stylish short skirts and tight tops. He didn’t like that I wore suits with long skirts and pants that covered my body parts.
Yes, he actually said that! It was an entertainment company and when I told me agency — as it was a temp to perm position — they told me, in show business (entertainment) — looks play a part. Yet, being overweight, no way would I wear short skirts nor tight clothing.
Thus, I’m sorry to my skinny sisters — yes, you can be teased, called some skinny names — but, unlike me, you can shop in most any clothing store, you don’t generally lose jobs over your weight and even media doesn’t attack you like it does us! Commercials about how they want to make it a crime to buy soda, or McDonald’s — I never eat at McDonald’s — and limit us in the overweight community from buying fattening foods. You’ll still be able to buy whatever you want, though; thoroughly based on your size.
I’m also so tired of people saying, “you just have big bones.” NO, I DO NOT!!! I have normal size — medium bones! You Ms. Skinny never get that one about big bones. I’d rather someone ask me if I’m anorexic then tell me I have big bones. I miss the days when I was called “skeleton” or “stretch“. I would take them back in an instant.
In fact, when I was skinny, I loved it when people noticed — even if the comment was rude! I loved Italian mother’s encouraging me to “eat more” because “you’re too skinny“.
I’d be forever appreciative to anyone, right now, who would get me a Personal Trainer and pay for NutraSystem for a year, too! Thus, I will not post comments saying that you, as a thin person, have it as rough as us who are overweight. I have been there — too thin or thin — and I never complained, in those days, when people teased me about my weight. I knew they were just envious of my wonderful shape.
As for Jennifer Hudson — Congrats! To her, too — she lost 80 lbs on Weight Watchers (which I love); unlike me, though, Jennifer has money. She can afford the right food, she can afford a Personal Trainer, she can afford to attend the meetings and buy things needed to lose weight.
As an obese person — it is just plain mean as no one is jealous of a fat person.